How to Know When to Get Help

Asking for or seeking help in time of trouble is a sign of strength. It may feel embarrassing, but it need not be. Rarely can people do it all alone. Having a belief in your original commitment to the marriage requires stretching beyond your comfort zone and doing some reflection and possible hard work to retrieve the commitment you intend.

Trouble can begin early in the marriage or creep in later. Is now the time to ask for that help? Only you know. These are some possible “red flags” that will help you determine your next steps.

Ø     Problem solving rarely produces any solutions; it creates more problems

Ø     Solutions to problems never seem to get carried out

Ø     When there is no time to discuss the marriage relationship

Ø     When one or both of you refuse to work on troublesome issues

Ø     When one of you is sure you are ok and the problem is with the other person

Ø     No matter what one of you does or doesn’t do, the other continues to feel unsatisfied in the marriage

Ø     Nothing seems to make sense

Take this quiz to find out if your marriage is in trouble